#SinfullySassySundays: @dochappycamper Revisits Icky Body Fluids and the F-Bomb in #Erotica and #EroticRomance

Welcome back to Taboo II. I’m Luscious Lia Michaels, author and owner of this naughty club. It’s Sunday so you know what that means…

The Vixen is BAAAAACK!!!

The Vixen, our hubbies, and other Sassy Vixen Publishing authors just returned from RomCon 2014 in Denver, Colorado. We had an amazing time, met more readers and made new friends. Being involved in many author hosted events helped get our names out there and bring tons of people to our table for the book signing. ALL of our books went. Tawny’s Bigfoot Chronicles literally flew off the table and rumor has it that people were trying to trade other books for them. Whoohoo!

You will be proud of us. We took every opportunity to discuss how there are some out there who try to hijack erotica and erotic romance so they can “clean it up” and make it more to their liking. You know how we feel about that! The last post we took back CUNT. This time, The Vixen wants to discuss body fluids and the use/abuse of FUCK. Yes, people can over use the word just like any other. 

Go on and grab your ‘rita from Tony at the bar and take your seats. The Vixen is about to take the stage…

Welcome to Sinfully Sassy Sundays here at Taboo II. I’m The Vixen, you guide to all things sinful, sassy, naughty, and oh sooooo taboo. I had a hard time thinking about what to discuss this week because I’ve been dealing with a defending erotica and erotic romance yet again. It’s beginning to become one of those never ending struggles for myself and other authors who write on the erotic side. 

Of course, I had less to defend at RomCon this year. More and more readers and authors are coming over to the dark side. LOL! Still, there were quite a few people turning white when I told them my favorite word was CUNT. hehehe. You know I had to do that. I love shocking the hell out of people, but at the same time I wanted them to know how I feel about the use of cunt and other “naughty” or taboo words in my writing. So, I thought it would be a good idea to revisit a post I did a year and a half ago on another blog. 

The spark for the following article was a Facebook fan page for another publisher. Someone affiliated with them decided to post a list of their “pet peeves” about some of the submissions she’s had to read. Now, this is the fan page of a publisher that takes great pride in “bringing some of the  hottest stories out there to readers.” That’s actually part of their site’s tagline, so you can understand why the following pet peeves got under my skin. I’m not one to hold back when it comes to my chosen genre. I’ll defend it to the very end just as I’ll defend the right of all authors to publish in the genres they love. The problem comes when people try to change the established genres to either clean them up or give them some heat. 

With that in mind…

Body Fluids Are NOT Icky!

This week has been one of many surprises. Not only did I have to continue to defend my choice to write erotica and erotic romance, I’ve had to explain what exactly should be in these stories to be labeled as such to EDITORS and AUTHORS who should flippin’ know better! Readers look to these labels for specific kinds of stories and characters. If we start changing up the definitions, we’re going to lose our fan base.

Come on! You work for a publisher that advertises that they put out the “hottest” romances around and yet you can’t stand the mention of body fluid and how much or how little is present? You want to vomit because an oral sex scene is too detailed describing wet chins, pussies and inner thighs?

But wait! There’s more.

You have never seen someone come so hard or so often that the sheets get soaked. So obviously it could NEVER happen in real life or the fantasy worlds we create. You’ve never witnessed more than a dribble or drop or two of precum on a the head of a cock so obviously any sort of spurting of the fluid is out of the question.

Well I’ve got news for you. All of it happens and I’ve witnessed it firsthand. It’s not some made up fantasy for me and many other people. Still not convinced these things can and do occur in sexual encounters? I feel sorry for you. I really do. My advice  to you is to get yourself laid by someone who can help you experience these things because you’ve truly missed out…on a lot!

Clits Don’t Throb!


Maybe yours doesn’t, honey but The Vixen’s does. Many other women experience these sensations even as far as to say their clits throb in beat with their heart when they are fully aroused. How can this be?

It’s remnant penile erectile tissue that ENGORGES with blood. Of course it can throb, pulse and ache. It can become so uber sensitive during arousal that just the act of blowing air over it can send me…er…many women into an orgasm. 😉

Women Don’t Squirt!

Okay, now you’re just ticking me off.  Oh and don’t you dare say she’s just urinating during sex!

Female ejaculation does occur and it’s biologically different than urine. It can literally gush forcefully out of a woman and soak bedding, clothing, and if she’s standing the fluids can run down her thighs. Just because you’ve never experienced that yourself nor have any of your “close” friends doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

What Are You Getting at Vixen?

If you’ve found today’s discussion “icky” and something that should be left out of the romance novels you like to read, write, edit or publish than you have NO business claiming the erotica or erotic romance genre as your own.

Those of us who write EXPLICIT, very detailed love scenes leaving NOTHING to the imagination will continue to carry on in this genre without you and we’ll stick with publishers who accept us and our books. We’ll leave the less explicit, less detailed,  left behind closed doors sexual encounters to you. There’s room for everyone and at all comfort levels. Stop trying to hijack MY genres because you think it’s cool or in to call yourself an erotic romance author or publisher.

You Never Go Ass to Mouth!

Instead of going into a huge discussion how this can and does happen, I’ll just share a clip of one of my favorite movies Clerks II. Here the characters are discussing this very topic.  Me doth think they protest too much! (wink wink!) If you don’t have a clue what I’m talking about here, you will after watching this scene!

Now For The Flipside

The same advice goes for those who use the F-bomb as a noun, adjective, adverb, verb, and explicative all in the same paragraph. Using that word over and over again doesn’t make your poorly written love scene any spicier or erotic. It makes it dull and boring. As the meme says, I do like the word and I do use it in my writing and sometimes in my real life. I can be a foul-mouthed broad, but there is a point where even I can’t take any more of it.

The following is basically a parody of several scenes I found in one of the worst collections of so called erotica short stories. This particular one that so repulsed me was supposed to be an exhibitionist scene/orgy but it just made me want to vomit in my mouth reading it. LOL

He fucked into her pussy until he was buried to the hilt and then started fucking her silly. “Fuck! Your cunt’s so hot! I’m gonna fuck you until you fucking pass out.”

“Give it to me, baby. Fuck my twat, harder. Fuck yeah!”

“When I’m done fucking your pussy, I’m gonna ram my meat into your ass.”

She moaned and shook while her cream shot out of her, causing his dick to slip out. “Fuck! Bitch you’re just too wet. I’m gonna fuck your ass so hard you won’t be able to shit for a week.”

After he eased his thick rod into her puckered hole, he let her take over. She fucked her ass up and down his cock while her tits bounced wildly. The crowd of onlookers cheered them on.

“Look at those fucking tits fly!”

“Someone get your cock in her fucking mouth and keep her busy while Dave fucks her fat ass up!”

Having Your Cake and Eating it Too

There were very few if any descriptive terms in the above “excerpt.” At least two thirds of it all was left up to the reader’s imagination. I know I was so jarred by all the F-words in the scenes I read in order to write this parody; I couldn’t visualize any scene in my head. I was taken completely out of the story.  The above scene and those like it are what I call “icky.” They have nothing to do with erotica or erotic romance but have been marketed as such. When I read stuff like that, I picture the author as a dirty-minded teenaged boy describing what he THINKS is hot. It’s not even well written PORN by anyone’s standards.

So when people compare what I write and that of my fellow muses as “smut” or “porn,” can you see why we would take offence?  The dirty minded teenaged boy novel belongs in its own genre and not in mine just as much as what I write doesn’t belong in mainstream romance novels of the sweet and sensual variety.

How about all of us across the board stick to the descriptions detailed by the RWA for each of our respective categories and stop trying to hijack one we don’t fit into? My alter ego Lia Michaels did a post on these not too long ago. Here is the LINK.

If you want everyone to follow the specific rules of romance and yet won’t follow those definitions when it comes to genres and categories, get ready for some major debates and maybe even downright brawls. I for one will listen to what the readers want to find in erotica and erotic romances and not try to “convince” them that my work fits into those categories just because I say so.

Know your audience and write for them. Stop trying to clean up erotica and erotic romances. They don’t need it!

~The Vixen (card carrying member of The Vixens of Kink!)

Learn More About The Vixen

Tammy Dennings Maggy is a multi-published poet and erotic romance author with Siren and Sassy Vixen Publishing. Her writing explores many facets of romance from ultimate betrayal to finding your soul mate. Her poetry serves as a companion to her novels and has inspired entire series all on their own. Tammy and her alter egos Lia Michaels and Stephanie Ryan make up the core authors at Sassy Vixen Publishing and together they’ve created the shared world series Temptations Resort. Look for the first books in that series to come out later this year.

Now happily married to her own Muse and soul mate, she continues to live her dream and act as secretary to all her characters demanding to have their stories told.

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